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You Hurt My Feelings | 2023 | R | – 2.2.7
Why is “You Hurt My Feelings” rated R? The MPAA rating has been assigned for “language.” The Kids-In-Mind.com evaluation includes a few kissing scenes between a married couple, partial non-sexual nudity, an armed robbery, scenes of the sale of marijuana in a store, a woman smoking marijuana, many arguments, and over 20 F-words and other strong language. Read our parents’ guide below for details on sexual content, violence & strong language.
When a writer (Julia Louis-Dreyfus) becomes aware of her husband’s (Tobias Menzies) real views on her work, and realizes his appreciation was feigned, she begins to doubt everything about their relationship. Also with Michaela Watkins, Arian Moayed, Owen Teague, Amber Tamblyn, David Cross, Zach Cherry, LaTanya Richardson Jackson, Sarah Steele and Jeannie Berlin. Directed by Nicole Holofcener. [Running Time: 1:33]
You Hurt My Feelings SEX/NUDITY 2
– A husband kisses his wife and she tells him, “You are a great kisser.” A husband and his wife kiss tenderly in a few scenes.
► A young woman describes when she was 9-years-old and a man took off his pants and masturbated while looking at her. A young man talks about feeling like his girlfriend is pulling away. A man talks about having been “Young and hot.” A young man says that his girlfriend broke up with him and that she slept with someone else.
► A man showers in a few scenes and we see his bare shoulders and chest. A man wears knee-length shorts and no shirt (we see his bare back, chest and abdomen).
You Hurt My Feelings VIOLENCE/GORE 2
– A man with a gun comes into a marijuana store demanding drugs and money as people inside the shop cower on the floor; one woman lies on top of her son to protect him.
► A young man describes wishing for a girl to stop talking and that when a bee flew into her mouth, she had an allergic reaction and died. A young woman describes when she was 9-years-old and a man took off his pants and masturbated while looking at her. A woman tells her son that she is worried about him working in a marijuana store and says, “It’s dangerous.” A woman talks about having suffered verbal abuse from her father. A husband and his wife argue bitterly, calling each other names and saying, “I don’t like you,” in several couple’s counselling sessions. A husband tells his wife, “Don’t tell me what to do,” and, “Don’t point at me,” while they argue. A wife makes a comment about her husband’s mother and he says that she has been dead for less than a week. Two women argue with their mother in a few scenes. A woman says that a blouse that she hasn’t worn is too nice for the homeless when her adult daughter asks her for donations. A woman overhears her husband telling a friend that he doesn’t like her new book and she becomes upset; she leans over on a sidewalk and gags saying that she is going to be sick (she does not get sick). Two women argue about how they each describe the other’s work in less than glowing terms. A young woman describes a time when as a child and at the zoo with her mother, a monkey stared at her as if it hated her. A wife accuses her husband of not liking women. A woman confronts her husband about things that she heard him say and he becomes upset because she was spying on him; she accuses him of gaslighting her. A man and a woman argue and she cries. A man and a woman tell a therapist that they don’t want to see him anymore and they want their money back. A young man becomes upset with his parents and tells his mother, “You always expect the best from me.” A woman tells another woman that her current book is not as good as her previous book. A young man approaches a man and asks if he was in a movie, and when the man says yes and asks if the young man wants to take a selfie, the young man says no and walks away leaving the man disappointed. A young man is upset by his parents sharing their food. A therapist’s patient says, “Oh God, he’s an idiot,” at the end of a video chat session. A man doubts himself when he misremembers facts about a patient of his. A woman says that her son stole ping-pong balls from a store when he was young. A young man says that his girlfriend broke up with him. A man talks about his strained relationship with his siblings during a therapy session. A woman puts a copy of her book on a featured table on top of another author’s book and two members of the store’s staff laugh at her later. A woman yells at her adult sister in a store and says, “I’m going to kill you.” A man says he was fired from a play, that he is giving up acting and he says, “I wanna die.” A woman says, “I hate people.” A woman asks, “Are we dead yet?” A wife tells her husband that he keeps buying her things that she pretended to like and he says that she has done the same thing with gifts to him. A doctor tells a woman that she will be expected to pay a yearly “concierge fee” in addition to regular charges. A man tells his therapist that he is “way too expensive.” A man and woman talk about getting Botox treatments. A young woman complains that her partner wants her to turn on the water when she is in the bathroom so that he won’t hear her urinating.
► A man has bruises under his eyes after a cosmetic treatment.
You Hurt My Feelings LANGUAGE 7
– About 24 F-words, 28 scatological terms, 4 anatomical terms, 7 mild obscenities, name-calling (stupid, crazy, mean, idiot, horrifying, fancy-shmancy, tired, hard, ridiculous, gross, liar, sweetie pie, third wheel, super tedious, hurtful, child, crazy lady, insulting, pathetic, pointless, gross, flop, old, a little bit crazy, awful, weird, probably a mess, stink), exclamations (for goodness sakeys, I don’t know man, kill me, huh, I’m pumped, oh wake up, really, bumming me out, jeez, uh-oh, that’s a joke, I can’t believe this, goodness me, seriously, wow, you’re kidding me, what in the living [mild obscenity deleted], shut-up), religious profanities, 28 religious exclamations (e.g. oh my God, thank God, God, oh dear God, oh God, oh Jesus, Holy [scatological term deleted]). | profanity glossary |
You Hurt My Feelings SUBSTANCE USE
– A woman smokes a marijuana cigarette, a woman offers other people Xanax (none take any), a young man works in a marijuana store and asks his mother if she would like to buy something when she comes into the shop (she does not buy anything), and a man takes a prescription pill to calm himself before an audition. A man and a woman drink wine with a meal, people drink alcohol in a bar scene, empty bottles of beer are seen on a table, people drink wine with dinner, people drink champagne at a restaurant, and a young man enters a room carrying an open bottle of beer.
You Hurt My Feelings DISCUSSION TOPICS
– Therapy, contempt, honest feelings, self-doubt, guilt, talent, heartbreak, aging, ambition, loneliness, respect, trust, lying, double standard with regard to cosmetic surgery and treatments, enabling, infidelity, abuse.
You Hurt My Feelings MESSAGE
– Being truthful is the best path, but it’s also OK to be sensitive to a person’s feelings.
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