You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah | 2023 | PG-13 | – 3.3.4

Why is “You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah” rated PG-13? The MPAA rating has been assigned for “some crude/suggestive material, strong language and brief teen drinking.” The Kids-In-Mind.com evaluation includes several flirting scenes, teen anxiety about romantic relationships, hurtful acts and remarks made by teens and adults in several scenes, many arguments between teens and teens and adults, and some strong language. Read our parents’ guide below for details on sexual content, violence & strong language.

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A teen girl (Sunny Sandler) dreaming about a perfect bat mitzvah party, sabotages a former friend’s (Samantha Lorraine’s) bat mitzvah — but then tries to undo the harm and restore their friendship. Also with Jackie Sandler, Idina Menzel, Adam Sandler, Sadie Sandler, Dylan Hoffman, Sarah Sherman and Dan Bulla. Directed by Sammi Cohen. Many lines of dialogue are spoken in Hebrew without translation. [Running Time: 1:43]

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah SEX/NUDITY 3

 – A teen girl stares longingly at a teen boy in several scenes and when he offers to provide her with her first kiss they hide behind the curtains of a Torah ark; a woman finds them and shouts.
► A teen girl sabotages a video she made for another teen girl’s bat mitzvah that includes embarrassing personal video clips (front and back flatulence, loud snoring, two Barbies being clicked together as if kissing and having sex, and the girl holding basketballs to her chest and bobbling them as if they are breasts). A female rabbi and a male cantor dance, writhing and shimmying at a bat mitzvah party. A teen girl is upset when she sees another teen girl kissing a teen boy she has a crush on and texts a crude message to an anonymous group about a part of the other girl’s anatomy.
► A teen girl wears short and tight-fitting dresses and after she texts images of herself to a teen boy, he responds, “Nice.” A teen girl tries to make herself look older by wearing heavy makeup and tight clothing to attract boys. Several scenes show teen girls wearing mini dresses. A few women wear low-cut dresses that show some cleavage. A few girls wear crop tops and bikini tops with short-shorts. We see the bare back of a shirtless teen boy.
► A woman tells a young teen wearing high heels that she looks like a stripper. A teen girl says she has kissed many boys. A man says he is getting divorced and is on six dating apps. A woman tells her husband that another man may hit on her and he says he may have to punch that man in the face. A teen girl walks into a band room and says, “Are they hooking up in there?” (we see nothing). We hear that a teen boy touched a teen girl’s “under-boob” at school. A man talks to his teen daughter about menstruating (over the phone and in front of her friends) and she is embarrassed. A teen girl complains that people are asking her crude questions after a rumor starts about a part of her anatomy.

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah VIOLENCE/GORE 3

 – A teen girl sabotages a video she made for another teen girl’s bat mitzvah that includes embarrassing personal video clips (front and back flatulence, loud snoring, two Barbies being clicked together as if kissing and having sex, and the girl holding basketballs to her chest and bobbling them as if they are breasts).
► A father and his teen daughter have a prolonged, loud argument that is heard outside their house; the father screams and threatens to put a teen boy through a wood chipper. A man carries his teen daughter to his car as she screams and flails, and later drags her into a Jewish temple, as she shouts “No.” Two teen girls argue and scream at each other. A teen girl argues several times with her parents about having the perfect party, including expensive items and expensive revealing clothing; her mother finally takes away her phone. Different pairs of teen girls argue in several scenes. A woman and man argue briefly. Two teen girls threaten to kill each other. We hear that a woman committed suicide because a man dated someone else. A teen girl reads from the Torah her parsha of Ki Tissa for her bat mitzvah; she stops and confesses bad behaviors to the audience and calls out a teen boy specifically for his selfish behavior. A teacher tells a middle school boy in class that he is growing more body hair (we don’t see any hair) and he is embarrassed. A teen girl says she is allowed to have lip filler and Botox. We hear that in Brazil, teen boys are covered in red fire ants as a rite of passage to manhood.
► A teen girl jumps off a cliff into a bay at a party; her bloodstained sanitary napkin floats up beside her, teen boys laugh at her and teen girls shout at the boys. A teen girl visits an elderly care home where a grandmother seems disoriented and squeals, and a teen boy dribbles a basketball down the hall and nearly hits an elderly man. A teen boy hits a guitar player with a large bag at a party, making the man fall (he is unharmed). A man backs his car out into another car and we hear a crash and see some dents (there are no injuries). In a long shot, a man jumps from a tree with bungee cords on his feet. A fire-eater at a party blows large flames. Two teen girls watch brief horror scenes on a cell phone, including from “It,” “Chucky,” and “Shawshank Redemption,” (we do not see gore). A soccer ball hits a teen girl in the head and knocks her off a chair, but she is not hurt. Six teen girls cover their faces with white skin paste and put on plastic fingernails at home.

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah LANGUAGE 4

 – 6 obscene hand gestures, 3 sexual references, 21 scatological terms, 11 anatomical terms, 10 mild obscenities, name-calling (weird, crazy, insane, nuts, idiot, stupid, dork, punk, snake, old people, old man, weak, weird, nerd, selfish, drama queen, jerk, scaredy-cat, Spider Nips, Aunt Flow in the Blood Pad), exclamations (shut-up, heck, freaking, frickin’, my goodness, oh snap, booyah, wow, oh boy, shoot), 1 religious profanity (GD), 50 religious exclamations (e.g. oh my God, Jesus, dear God, ay Dios mio, I swear to God). | profanity glossary |

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah SUBSTANCE USE

 – A woman chugs a double shot of alcohol with her two 13-year-old daughters at two parties, a teen girl says she drank alcohol and did not like it, and a man says “It’s time to get hammered” at a party (we do not see drinking).

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah DISCUSSION TOPICS

 – Jewish religious traditions, Hebrew schools, expensive bat mitzvah parties, women rabbis, good deeds, helping others, family, interfaith marriage, coming-of-age, friends, jealousy, conflict, sabotage, honesty, making amends, acceptance, forgiveness.

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah MESSAGE

 – Teen girls should not center their lives around teen boys. There’s nothing more important than friends and the truth.