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Together Together | 2021 | R | – 4.2.5
Why is “Together Together” rated R? The MPAA rating has been assigned for “some sexual references and language.” The Kids-In-Mind.com evaluation includes many discussions of pregnancy, the human anatomy and childbirth, several arguments and awkward conversations about friendship, love and surrogates, and at least 3 F-words and other strong language. Read our parents’ guide below for details on sexual content, violence & strong language.
A 26-year-old woman (Patti Harrison) accepts the charge of becoming a surrogate for a single 40-something-year-old man (Ed Helms), but as the pregnancy progresses complications of defining their friendship and boundaries become painfully apparent. Also with Rosalind Chao, Timm Sharp, Bianca Lopez, Nora Dunn, Fred Melamed, Vivian Gil, Tig Notaro and Julio Torres. Directed by Nikole Beckwith. [Running Time: 1:30]
Together Together SEX/NUDITY 4
– A man asks a woman to move into his house during her pregnancy and she initially declines but then tells him that she can stay over sometimes. A man and woman hold hands. A clothed woman climbs in bed with a clothed man and he puts his hand on her abdomen so that he can feel the child she is carrying when it moves.
► A man awkwardly demonstrates how to insert a tampon, practicing for telling a child (we see him holding a tampon and pushing it through an applicator). A man puts on a nursing vest and holds a stuffed animal to a bottle’s nipple at his chest.
► A woman’s bare abdomen is shown several times as her pregnancy progresses; a few times when a man traces her growing abdomen with chalk on a wall. We see an ultrasound image of a developing embryo. A woman undergoes an internal ultrasound in an exam room, we see the wand (the woman is covered with a sheet), and the man in the room with her seems uncomfortable.
► A man becomes upset when he realizes that the woman carrying his child is having sex with men and he refers to the men’s genitals being really close to his unborn child. A man says that he and his ex would go to couples’ therapy and that they would then continue not sleeping together. A man and a woman discuss their age difference as being uncomfortable and the woman comments about director Woody Allen’s controversial relationships with much younger women. A man and a woman discuss dating apps and the man refers to one such app being used mostly for connecting with people in order to have sex. A man asks a woman to dinner and she accepts. A man and a woman awkwardly talk about being pro-choice or pro-life. A man and a woman toast to his sperm, her egg and uterus. A doctor reports to a woman and a man during an exam that the placenta has formed. We hear an embryo’s heart beating during an ultrasound in an exam room. A man says that his favorite app tracks a woman’s menstrual cycle. Single people and same-sex couples discuss surrogate pregnancy and why they have chosen to go through with it. A woman describes that her mucus plug dropped and that she had her “bloody show.”
Together Together VIOLENCE/GORE 2
– A woman moans deeply during labor, she practices breathing and relaxation techniques and moans loudly during delivery. A woman wakes up with a pain in her abdomen and she is told by a doctor that it is pre-labor and that she should stay off her feet.
► A woman says that her parents were really mad when she got pregnant in high school and that they were also mad when she gave the child up for adoption. During an interview, a man asks a woman if she has ever stolen anything and she replies, “Not really. Just pens, I’ve stolen pens”; the man goes on to asks, “What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done,” and the woman replies that that is personal. A woman reprimands her adult son for driving with an open container (a bottle of champagne).
► A man seems nervous and anxious about a pregnancy and becoming a parent in several scenes. A man monitors what a woman is eating (she is carrying his child). A man and a woman have awkward discussions in counseling sessions. A man says that he and his ex would go to couples’ therapy but that they are no longer together. A man and woman say, “Ew!” when they see a pair of clogs that a man has bought for the woman. A woman reads legal directives in a surrogate contract and lists a number of prohibited and high-risk activities that are not permitted. A man talks about the impact colors have on developing minds while trying to choose a paint color for a nursery. A woman asks a man, “Why are you doing this alone?” A man and a woman discuss gender-neutral, non-human names to call an embryo besides “it.” A woman says that she is sure that her parents think that the only thing that she is good at is getting pregnant. A woman tells a man that his body is a graveyard (he has several tattoos of his exes). People behave awkwardly around a pregnant woman when she is introduced as “the surrogate.” People practice breathing techniques at a birthing center in a few scenes. We hear an infant cry after delivery.
► A woman vomits in a pail during labor (we hear splatter but do not see goo). A woman’s water breaks and we see it flush onto the floor between her legs. A doctor says that an infant is “crowning” during delivery. A man hurts his hand when trying to build a crib. A man tries to put on a baby carrier and drops a stuffed animal through it and onto the floor when practicing carrying a baby. A man working in a coffee shop sniffles, wipes his nose with his hand and serves food to customers.
Together Together LANGUAGE 5
– About 3 F-words, 2 scatological terms, 5 sexual references, 15 anatomical terms, 1 mild obscenity, name-calling (judgmental, stranger, weird, dumb, sad, hopeless, mortifying, that lady, Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde), exclamations (Ew, Ow, are you kidding me), 19 religious exclamations (e.g. Oh My God, God Knows What Else, God Knows Who Else, during an interview a man asks a woman if she is religious). | profanity glossary |
Together Together SUBSTANCE USE
– A woman asks for an epidural during the delivery of a child. People drink champagne in a couple of scenes, a man drinks wine in a restaurant, and there’s a reference to getting drunk.
Together Together DISCUSSION TOPICS
– Teen pregnancy, surrogates, regret, estranged families, being alone, trust, Reaganomics, hormones, dating apps, Tinder, single parenting, friendship.
Together Together MESSAGE
– Being a surrogate is complicated for everyone involved.
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