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We Don't Live Here Anymore [2004] [R] - 9.3.8



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Unlike the MPAA we do not assign one inscrutable rating based on age, but 3 objective ratings for SEX/NUDITY, VIOLENCE/GORE and PROFANITY on a scale of 0 to 10, from lowest to highest, depending on quantity and context.

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Two married couples (Naomi Watts and Peter Krause, Laura Dern and Mark Ruffalo) who have been friends for some time discover that they have drifted apart, allowing infidelity, jealousy and anger to change their lives. Directed by John Curran. [1:41]

SEX/NUDITY 9 - A nude man and woman (not married to each other) have sex against a tree (we see her bare leg, hip and side, and his chest and leg): he thrusts and she lifts her leg to wrap around his waist (we see this scene a few times). A man and a woman (not married to each other) drop their pants (we see their bare thighs) and have sex against a wall (they thrust and moan and climax); this happens while the woman's husband is sleeping upstairs. A man and a woman (not married to each other) have sex in the front seat of a car (we see them moving rhythmically and hear them moaning). A man and a woman (not married to each other) remove their clothes (she is in panties and a tank top and he is bare-chested) and we later see them lying on a blanket, presumably after having had sex (we see their bare shoulders). A man and a woman (not married to each other) kiss passionately in a car. A woman reaches into her husband's pajama pants, trying to seduce him, he rolls over, we see her thrusting on top of him (he caresses her bare back and we see her bare buttocks), and they kiss. A married couple has sex: she lies on her stomach and he thrusts (we see his bare chest). A man and a woman (not married to each other) hold each other, she tries to seduce him, but he declines. A woman wearing no underpants holds a patch of leaves over her crotch. A man touches a woman's clothed buttock as she dances. Two couples lie in beds talking (the men are bare-chested). A man and a woman dance together (not holding each other). Two women dance together, dipping each other and spinning while their husbands watch. A college professor makes a suggestive remark to a female student about how she looks. Two men admire a woman in a short skirt . A woman describes in detail to her husband what she and another man did while having sex. A woman talks to a man about her husband's sexual indiscretions. A woman tells her husband that another man kissed her. A woman tells her husband that she performed oral sex on another man. A woman wrapped in a sheet (bare shoulders) stands looking out a window. Women wear low-cut tops that reveal cleavage and bare abdomens.

VIOLENCE/GORE 3 - A man shoves a woman into a chair and raises his fist to her. A man shoves a woman onto the floor. A woman throws a glass of alcohol in her husband's face. A man and a woman argue bitterly in several scenes. A woman yells at her husband and accuses him of having an affair or wanting to have an affair with another woman. A boy pounds on his stuffed animal with a stick. A man burns a pile of papers on a grill and invites children to watch. A woman steps in cat droppings that have fallen out of a litter box. A woman talks about a gorilla having a bowel movement in its hand, and then licking it. We hear that a boy has been sleeping in a bed that's wet with urine.

PROFANITY 8 - 35 F-words, 2 obscene hand gestures, 7 sexual references, 18 scatological terms, 8 anatomical term, 12 mild obscenities, 11 religious profanities, 17 religious exclamations. [profanity glossary]

DISCUSSION TOPICS - Infidelity, betrayal, marriage, trust, confrontation, effects of marital problems on children, sex without love, lying, living false lives, rejection, hate, failure, need vs. love.

MESSAGE - Taking each other for granted can lead to estrangement.

(Note: People drink heavily and smoke a lot.)

Special Keywords: S9 - V3 - P8 - MPAAR

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