A brother and sister (Philip Seymour Hoffman and Laura Linney) who are already struggling with their own complicated lives are forced to deal with the care of their aging father (Philip Bosco), who suffers from dementia. As they come to terms with the guilt of placing him in a nursing home they also realize they must prepare themselves for his death. Also with Peter Friedman, Gbenga Akinnagbe. Directed by Tamara Jenkins. [1:53]
SEX/NUDITY 7 - A man and a woman have sex on a bed: we see him thrusting and grunting briefly and her bare shoulders and his bare back are visible.
► A man and a woman kiss passionately, he tries to pull her down to the floor, she pulls away, she takes off her top (we see her in her bra and her bare abdomen and back are shown), and the man kisses her back and shoulders.
► A man and a woman lie in bed under covers (we see brief movement), they sit up and argue (her bare shoulders and his bare chest are visible) and the scene ends.
► A woman is shown seated in a bathtub (her bare shoulders and the top of her chest are visible), several women wearing short dresses do a tap dance (bare legs are visible) and several women are shown in a swimming pool (their bare backs and shoulders are exposed). An elderly man is shown bare-chested while changing his clothes. We see an elderly man wearing a T-shirt and jockey shorts (bare legs are shown).
► A man and a woman talk on the telephone and he tells her he is becoming aroused (nothing else sexual happens).
► A woman kisses a man and he pulls away. A man and a woman hug, he tries to kiss her and she pulls away.
VIOLENCE/GORE 5 - An elderly woman collapses on a manicurist's table and dies (the other people in the shop scream and are anxious). An elderly man lies dead in a hospital bed.
► An elderly man struggles angrily against restraints while in a hospital bed. We see an elderly man in a hospital bed with oxygen tubes in his nose and a urine bag hanging under the bed.
► In a play, a man strikes a boy in the face repeatedly.
► A man yells when he hurts himself while playing tennis (we later see him in traction for a neck injury). A man and a woman yell at each other in several scenes.
► An elderly man yells at a movie screen when a character is shown striking a child (we see the scene also), he then yells at others in the audience saying, "shut up" and "drop dead." A man and a woman ask their elderly father about his wishes for life support and burial, and he becomes angry and yells, "Pull the plug" and "Bury me." A man talks about putting his dog to sleep because of pain and its inability to walk. We hear that a cat got in a fight with another cat (neither was injured). A man talks about peoples' toes turning under when they are close to death. A woman talks about having an abnormal pap smear.
► An elderly man seems confused and frightened when he is strapped into a wheelchair to be taken onto an airplane.
► An elderly man writes an obscenity on a bathroom wall using feces from the toilet (we see the feces on his hand and the wall). An elderly man walks through a crowded plane and his pants fall down to his ankles (we see him from behind wearing an adult diaper). A man tells another man "somebody forgot something in the bathroom" (referring to not having flushed after defecation). A woman has a lip piercing. A woman makes a gag gesture with her finger in her mouth (nothing happens).
PROFANITY 5 - 5 F-words, 1 sexual reference, 11 scatological terms, 3 anatomical terms, 9 mild obscenities, name-calling (idiot, creep, old vegetable), 2 religious profanities, 4 religious exclamations. [profanity glossary]
SUBSTANCE USE - In a couple of scenes a man and a woman are shown taking Percocet (which she has taken from the home of a woman who died) and the woman is later shown taking prescribed anti-depression medications. A man and a woman smoke in several scenes.
DISCUSSION TOPICS - Family, aging, dementia, vascular dementia, Alzheimer's disease, children's role in caring for aging parents, nursing homes, dealing with our own mortality, death of a parent, infidelity, betrayal, living wills, jealousy, mental illness, lack of parental support, selfishness, burial plans, child abuse, commitment to long-term relationships.
MESSAGE - We all get old and die.