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I've Loved You So Long [2008] [PG-13] - 4.5.4



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Unlike the MPAA we do not assign one inscrutable rating based on age, but 3 objective ratings for SEX/NUDITY, VIOLENCE/GORE and PROFANITY on a scale of 0 to 10, from lowest to highest, depending on quantity and context.

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A woman (Kristin Scott Thomas) is reunited with her estranged sister after serving fifteen years in prison for killing her six-year old son. It is a crime she has difficulty talking about, having remained silent during the trial and not offering a defense. Also with Elsa Zylberstein, Serge Hazanavicius, Laurent Grévill, Frédéric Pierrot, Jean-Claude Arnaud and Lise Ségur. Directed by Philippe Claudel. In French with English subtitles. [1:57]

SEX/NUDITY 4 - A man buttons his shirt in a hotel bathroom while a woman sits in bed, the man asks, "Was it good?" and it is implied that they have just had sex (there's no nudity).
 A husband and a wife stroll and kiss and have their arms around each other. A husband and a wife are seen sitting up in bed together (they are married to each other).
 A man propositions a woman for sex in a bar by saying, "Want a guy?" A man touches a woman's face, plays with her earring, asks her if she wants him to visit her later and she replies, "I'm tired." A man reaches to touch a woman's face in a romantic manner, and she gently pushes him away replying, "Please don't." A woman tells another woman that she ."..slept with a guy last week... some guy in a bar." A woman jokingly asks another woman if she's seeing one of her many lovers. A woman warns another woman about a man who "hits on everyone." A man jokes about grading his female students based on how little they wear and on exposing cleavage (he mentions "no bras" and "navel piercings"). A woman reads a story to a child and one line reads, "As full as a woman's womb."
 An older man is seen flirting with a younger woman by a swimming pool. A man asks a woman out for a drink.
 A woman is seen in a sheer low-cut nightgown. Women are seen swimming in one-piece bathing suits in a pool. A woman is seen in a bikini bathing suit from the side. A man is seen in a tight Speedo.

VIOLENCE/GORE 5 - A woman goes to meet with a man, and a different man informs her that the man committed suicide by shooting himself through the mouth. A woman tells a man that she killed her six-year old son. A woman talks about how she killed her son. A woman tells a group of people at a party that she was imprisoned for murder. A woman talks about living in prison, in various scenes. A woman talks about a child "choking to death" and his "limbs writhing." A woman speaks of a child and the "little corpse he would become." A woman mentions kidnapping. A woman talks about the pain and loss of a child's death. A woman talks about injecting her son.
 A man falls and dislocates his shoulder (we hear a loud noise and then see him lying on the floor moaning in pain); a woman places her foot in a man's armpit and pushes with force while pulling on his arm and the man winces in pain, but is all right.
 Two women scream at each other. A man yells at a child to "shut up and eat!" A woman yells at a child and the child is upset. A husband and a wife argue and the wife tells the husband to "Shut up!" A man demands that a woman tell him what crime she committed (he yells angrily at her). A man yells at his wife and calls her crazy. A woman yells angrily at her students during a book discussion. A woman talks about her ex-husband testifying against her at a trial. A woman with Alzheimer's has difficulty recognizing her daughter, and cries out, "Take me home! I'm all alone! They lock me in!"
 A woman cries about her son dying. A woman talks about her father being "riddled with cancer," that he died from cancer, that there were tubes everywhere, and that he weighed ninety-two pounds. A woman talks about her father-in-law having a stroke and not being able to speak anymore. A woman tells another woman that her mother has lost her memory and doesn't recognize anybody. A woman talks about a car accident. A woman talks about not wanting to give birth. A woman talks about her parents and how they "Killed my sister out of my mind."
 A woman get upsets in a crowded nightclub, runs out, and sits in a doorway sobbing. Two women cry in various scenes (together and separately). A woman reads a letter from a child and sobs. A child writes in a letter, "I don't want you to die, ever." A woman cries to a doctor. A man calls his Iraqi friends "Al Qaeda" in a joking manner. A woman makes a joke stating that her child's nickname is "Hurricane Katrina." A woman waves a kitchen knife around in a joking manner.

PROFANITY 4 - 6 sexual references, 2 scatological references, 3 anatomical references, 2 mild obscenities, name-calling (rascal, Neanderthals, liar, killer, crazy, jerks, a pain). [profanity glossary]

SUBSTANCE USE - People drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes at a party, people drink wine and smoke cigarettes at a dinner gathering, and a woman drinks alcohol in a bar in a few scenes. A woman smokes cigarettes in various scenes.

DISCUSSION TOPICS - Sister relationships, redemption, forgiveness, imprisonment, adoption, adopting from another country/culture, murder, Cancer, Alzheimer's disease, death of a child, re-adjusting to society, being judged, dating, suicide, stroke, childhood memories, death of a parent.

MESSAGE - The truth about a person's life isn't always as it appears. It's never good to judge someone's situation, because we never know what that person has been through.

Special Keywords: S4 - V5 - P4 - MPAAPG-13

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