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Gray Matters [2007] [PG-13] - 4.1.5



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Unlike the MPAA we do not assign one inscrutable rating based on age, but 3 objective ratings for SEX/NUDITY, VIOLENCE/GORE and PROFANITY on a scale of 0 to 10, from lowest to highest, depending on quantity and context.

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Brother and sister Sam and Gray (Tom Cavanagh and Heather Graham) have been best friends all their lives, but are trying to become more independent and find respective life partners. When Sam falls in love and decides to get married, Gray becomes jealous and fearful of spending her life alone; and on the eve of the wedding she comes to realize that she is in love with her brother's fiancée (Bridget Moynahan). Also with Molly Shannon, Alan Cumming and Sissy Spacek. Directed by Sue Kramer. [1:32]

SEX/NUDITY 4 - Two women kiss romantically, a man and a woman kiss in several scenes, and another man and a woman kiss.
 While trying on dresses a woman is shown in her bra and boy-short panties, which reveal her bare buttocks. A woman wears a very low-cut top that reveals her ample cleavage in several scenes, and women wear low-cut tops and dresses that reveal cleavage in several scenes. A woman undresses another woman who is drunk (we see her bare back and panties).
 A nude woman carries strategically placed champagne bottles and glasses into a bathroom where another woman sits in a bubble bath waiting for her (bare shoulders and legs are visible); she then climbs into the tub and they talk (nothing sexual is implied).
 A woman tells her brother that she loves his wife, and that they kissed. A man on a first date with a woman makes unwelcome sexual remarks. A man makes a remark about a woman going through "gay puberty." A woman talks about studying homosexuality among mammals. A man asks another man if he has ever French-kissed his own sister. Two women gossip about another woman having an affair with their boss. A woman asks another woman if she was ever interested in her. A man tells a woman that he likes her. A woman talks about being willing to be a surrogate for a couple that wants children.
 A man and a woman dance together (they are brother and sister). Men and women dance salsa-type dances in a club. A man admires a woman.
 A woman invites another woman to join her at her place for a drink and we see the woman leaving the next morning, implying that they slept together. A man dresses like a woman to get into a gay bar and a gay woman asks to buy him a drink.

VIOLENCE/GORE 1 - A brother and sister argue bitterly and one tells the other to move out of the apartment they share. We hear about a couple being critical of each other's appearance.

PROFANITY 5 - 2 F-words, 6 sexual references, 3 scatological terms, 6 anatomical terms, 2 mild obscenities, name-calling (idiot), 1 derogatory term for homosexuals, 17 religious exclamations. [profanity glossary]

SUBSTANCE USE - Two women drink shots of alcohol in a bar, people drink alcohol at a dinner party, people drink alcohol in a few restaurant scenes, two women drink champagne, a man drinks beer, and a woman appears to be drunk after drinking a lot of alcohol.

DISCUSSION TOPICS - Homosexuality, coming out, friendship, secrets, sibling relationships, love, infidelity, divorce, anger, therapy, happiness, homosexuality as genetic proclivity vs. being a choice, betrayal, frustration, Oprah Winfrey, desperation, jealousy, separation anxiety.

MESSAGE - It is too much work to be someone you are not.

Special Keywords: S4 - V1 - P5 - MPAAPG-13

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