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Dear John [2010] [PG-13] - 6.4.4



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Unlike the MPAA we do not assign one inscrutable rating based on age, but 3 objective ratings for SEX/NUDITY, VIOLENCE/GORE and PROFANITY on a scale of 0 to 10, from lowest to highest, depending on quantity and context.

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On leave from military service, a man (Channing Tatum) meets a woman (Amanda Seyfried) and the two weeks they spend together seem to seal their love for one another. When the 9/11 attacks inspire him to re-enlist for another two years, the two lovers must try to endure separation. Also with Richard Jenkins, Henry Thomas, D.J. Cotrona, Cullen Moss, Keith Robinson, Scott Porter and Leslea Fisher. Directed by Lasse Hallström. [1:42]

SEX/NUDITY 6 - A man and a woman kiss, they begin to remove their clothing (we see his bare back and her bare breasts, although her nipples are covered by his arms), they continue to kiss, he climbs on top of her, there is very brief thrusting and they are shown in the morning after having spent the night together.
 A man and a woman kiss, she wraps her legs around his waist, he lifts her up, carries her into his room, lays her on his bed and they kiss and he tickles her.
 A man and a woman kiss and hold hands in several scenes. A man and a woman hug in several scenes. Men and women hug and cuddle around a fire on a beach.
 After spilling wine on herself, a woman changes her top, and a man sees her nude from the waist up (we see her bare shoulders and her breasts are obscured) and they exchange longing glances (nothing else happens).
 Women are shown wearing swimsuits that reveal cleavage, bare legs and abdomens in a few scenes. A man surfs in a few scenes and we see him bare-chested wearing swim trunks.
 A man makes several derogatory remarks about how Muslim women dress and that the small portion of their face that is exposed is "as sexy as it gets."

VIOLENCE/GORE 4 - A soldier is shot several times in the back (he falls to the ground and we see blood on his face and neck).
 A soldier is shot in the chest, he falls to the ground and is determined to be OK because of his bulletproof vest. We see a wounded man who is losing consciousness after having been shot (blood is seen on his face and neck).
 A man shoves another man, who punches him, then elbows another man in the face when he tries to intervene (we see him with a black eye and a swollen nose later). A man accidentally steps in an open fire (we hear a brief sizzle and he yells), and limps away.
 People are shown crying and in a state of panic after the 9/11 terrorist attacks. Soldiers are shown leaving their loved ones at a bus terminal and people are shown crying.
 We understand that a man dies from a stroke and we see a casket in a church. We hear that a man has stage 4 cancer and we see him in a hospital with IVs. A man is shown on a ventilator after suffering a stroke.
 Armed soldiers walk through a dessert village and we see explosions behind them. Armed soldiers walk through a village and address civilians.
 A man pounds on the steering wheel of his car in a fit of anger. A man and a woman argue and he storms off. A man yells at his father. A man and a woman argue over the choices they have made.
 A man says, "I have two holes in me…" (due to gunshot wounds) in a few scenes. A man threatens to break another man's leg if he hurts a woman in a relationship. A man describes how he got a scar on his eyebrow and says that he was really drunk in a bar and another man with a knife went for his eye. A woman breaks up with a man in a letter. A man tells a woman that she is too good for him since she doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke and she doesn't sleep around and she tries to convince him that she curses in her head.
 We see scars on a man's back and shoulder from bullet wounds.

PROFANITY 4 - 2 scatological terms, 1 anatomical term, 6 mild obscenities, 1 religious profanity, 3 religious exclamations. [profanity glossary]

SUBSTANCE USE - People are shown drinking beer at a cookout, people are shown drinking alcohol at a party, a man and a woman drink wine with dinner, and a woman spills wine on herself. A man smokes a cigar at a party.

DISCUSSION TOPICS - War, military service, duty to family, love, separation, long distance relationships, fear, Autism, death of a family member, generosity, coin collecting, obsession, overprotective parents, loneliness, betrayal, disappointment, frustration.

MESSAGE - Love takes patience.

Special Keywords: S6 - V4 - P4 - MPAAPG-13

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